Your Love Life is a Reflection of Your Self Worth

The other day I was interviewed by a woman writing an article for a national woman’s magazine. The premise of the article is to uncover why in this day and age many women continue to struggle in their pursuit of finding love.

During my time with the author I was asked “What is the number one mistake you see women making in their dating and relationships?”
I didn’t have to think about it for even a second. In fact, the author hadn’t even finished asking the question before I was giving her my answer.

“Hands down the biggest problem I see women continually making,” I replied “is that they don’t own their POWER. They don’t realize how truly wonderful and special they are. Because if they did they would never take sh*t from any man, never mind the man they are in a relationship with.”

I know what a huge heart you have. I know that you have a tremendous desire to share that heart with someone special. I know how you will give and give until you can’t give anymore and then still somehow find it in you to give some more.

It is one of the traits I admire most in women. But unfortunately that trait is often your Achilles heel. You are so used to giving and trying to make others happy that you often overlook your own needs.

You forget that YOU ARE IMPORTANT and that in order for you to be truly happy it is essential for you to be in a relationship with a guy who gives as much as he takes.

And herein lies the problem.
You don’t realize that you deserve it. And if you do realize it you don’t act in a way which shows a guy that you do.

I could write an expose for why this is but and the end of the day it comes down to one thing…Your Self Worth!
…Because if you really know how special you were you would never settle. You would never take crap from any man, especially the one you were sharing your life with and more importantly you would realize that you deserve nothing less than the best and you wouldn’t  stay five minutes with a guy who gave you anything less.

Owning your POWER simply means you know how special you truly are. Its knowing you don’t need someone else’s love or approval. Its understanding in every cell of your body that you don’t need a man to complete you and you don’t need a man in order to live happily ever after.
You have to own your POWER first. Because once you do it becomes much easier to find and have the happy and fulfilling relationship you really desire.

Why?

…Because you will no longer be working from FEAR.
You see it is fear that causes you take your ex back again and again.
It is FEAR which makes you stay in a relationship when your gut is telling you to run. And it is FEAR which makes you chase a guy when he is clearly showing you that he is not interested.

If you want to know how strong your self-worth and self-esteem is simply take a good look at your life and notice what you see.

Do you set clear boundaries and quickly remove yourself from any man who isn’t continuously making you happy?
Do you take your time and get to know a guy before you open your heart (and your legs)?  Or do you rush in and jump right into things hoping that if you do he will like you more?

You see, you can never have a truly happy and fulfilling relationship if it is based on fear. It’s like building a house on a foundation of sand. It may look good and be functional in the beginning but it will only be a matter of time before it starts sinking and comes crashing down.

Your relationships are merely a reflection of how you feel about yourself. If you love and respect yourself you have a relationship which mirrors that.
And when you don’t your relationships will reflect that as well.
You deserve the very best relationship possible but until you own it in your thoughts words and actions you will continue to make it much harder on yourself to have it.

A man can never complete you…but he can complement you.
A man can’t make you happy…but he can make you happier.
As the old saying goes…”you can’t love someone else until you first love yourself.”